Tuesday, May 19, 2009

The Wobbly Bridge Between Mars and Venus - Laying the Foundations

The Caveat : I haven’t read the book.

I have always maintained that in order to get noticed by ‘the one’ we’ve been noticing, we need a certain amount of deception and lies to have a head-start because obviously enough, they aren’t being noticed by just us right? There is competition and where there is competition, you have to have an edge. Don’t be up in arms denying it but you only take note of the loud odd-balls in the group. You want the best there is, (fair enough…I mean, it’s like shopping right? You’d like it to be perfect and I guess that is a fairly reasonable ask, it’s what any good shopper looks for, a flawless product!) and so you look at the most eye-catching candy out there. We understand this and so change the way we present ourselves.

The unfortunate part is the beginning…when the bridge is being constructed between the two, the very foundations are awry. How long will the lies and deception be kept up? If it were limited to the initial phases, things would be fine but they are not. Over a period of time, we become insecure about who we really are and find security in the façade of who we are trying to be. We start believing our own lies and falter thereon because we aren’t what we are pretending to be. By the time we realize our faults and start coming into being ourselves, neither side gets what they were looking for!

We aren’t perfect, we’re human. I wonder why things have to be so darned difficult? Just be yourself…you aren’t that bad!

7 comments:

Newbie Mommy said...

I guess so, speaks to the quote :
If you don't prize yourself, who will? If you don't love yourself, who will, eh? :)
Great stuff :)

Mulling Over My Thoughts said...

yup it sure does!
thank you!
:)

Anirudh Tiwari said...

Very true!

Fangs said...

note that your poems rarely incite any comments..

and this piece has 4 already..

see my point?

Mulling Over My Thoughts said...

@fangs:> Hmmm...point taken...no more poems here on...

Bluebutterfly said...

Hmmm... I know a fair number of people with awry foundations in the world of love but they are going pretty strong...
I guess you get so used to the pretending taht things dont seem right without it....

Mulling Over My Thoughts said...

yups...which is why the bridge doesnt break...but it isnt sturdy either...the 'wobbly bridge'
:)