Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Grow Apart to Grow Together


I was watching The Wonder Years some days ago and Paul and Kevin had a huge rift between them. It almost broke their friendship and was a rather turbulent time for them both. The friendship did survive but they weren’t bonded like chewing gum and the sole of your shoe anymore. They both suddenly gave each other distance and more importantly space. And at the end of the show, as always, he makes a very profound observation and I found it very pertinent too… he said “That sometimes to grow together, you have to grow apart.”

True isn’t it? I know I have stuck onto my friends ever since school but we aren’t as close as we were back then. All of us have grown from being almost similar, to being completely different. And then there are best friends. I would have loved to keep things the way they were in “OUR” Wonder Years but then they cannot continue that way forever can they? All of us have a different point of view and a different perspective no matter how similar the situation. And each of us needs to grow individually. We cannot grow together cause then we keep holding each other back. Making sacrifices and choices you don’t want to, holding back just to be together until you reach a point when you both stop growing. And then, whether we want to or not, we must let go and move on.

Sometimes, it is better to grow apart. Sooner or later, when it is due, you shall grow together again… I know I did…

3 comments:

cute n confused said...

wonderful advice...and well expressed...

bluebutterfly said...

hmm ..... its a case of been there done that for me, so it all just seemed so right !
space to grow is all we need !

p.s. : update ! ..

Mulling Over My Thoughts said...

lehar:> thank you...but it isnt necessarily advice, more of a mere statement of a fact of life that we always wish to ignore!


bluebutterfly:> wow, would you believe it! i still dunno your name!
anyways, space is perhaps the most dessecrated of all parameters in any relationship... as much as we need space, we forget to give it to others!